- Would life be different, if you believed that everything you loved and enjoyed was just right for you?
- What would happen if you knew yourself so well that you could say with confidence, “No thank you, I’d prefer…”
- How would you look at others if you really understood that their decisions, while not suitable for you, are perfect for them?
Personal preferences are specific likes and dislikes of an individual. While we as human beings have much in common, special attention should be paid to each individual’s preferences, as they have a major influence on the choices that we makes and how we behave. These preferences can be as ostensibly trivial as a small car vs. a large car or as monumental as whether to become a parent or not.
Preferences manifest themselves as beliefs, and over the course of time, seemingly minor personal preferences can have a profound impact on the direction of our lives.
We wear some preferences like a second skin because they were ingrained in us by our parents and society at large. For example, my mom is a home-body. She likes to go to work, run her errands, and spend her free time at home. Growing up, this is what we did, and it was fine. However, when I went away to college and was exposed to other influences, I discovered that I like going to the movies. I like going out to dinner. I like socializing outside of my house with a wide and ever-changing group of friends.
PERSONAL PREFERENCES AND THE LAW OF ATTRACTION
The Law of Attraction teaches us to recognize our own personal preferences by noticing how things feel and asking ourselves, “Which feels better? This or that?” When we take the time to notice our own feelings, we learn about ourselves in a way that leads to greater personal freedom and happiness. We are no longer constrained by society’s mandates, but we are free to live our best lives on our own terms.
According to Abraham Hicks, “Good means good. Bad means bad. If it feels good to you, you’re in alignment with something you desire. If it feels bad to you, you are not. Don’t let anybody else’s determination of what is good or bad, mess up your ability to know what’s good and bad.”
Makes sense, huh? But before I learned about the Law of Attraction and how I attract people, situations and opportunities in complete accord with my vibration, I tried to live by a set of standards or principles including the Golden Rule, the Ten Commandments, and any “Rules of Thumb” list that I came across online. I read through these lists and contemplated whether I was living the right way or not. Was I saving enough? Was I drinking enough water? Was I dressing appropriately for my age? I did everything I could to be the perfect mother, dutiful wife and selfless Christian. I thought that by conforming to what other people expected, I would become happy too. I was NOT a happy, joyful person. Rather, I was a person in great emotional and eventually physical, pain!
The Law of Attraction teaches us to notice when something doesn’t feel good, because that feeling of discomfort is an indicator that something is NOT good for us. Anything out of alignment with who I am and all the purposes I came to fulfill will NOT feel good. WOW! I had been placing my hand on a hot stove and trying to feel comfortable with the pain. I’d lived with chronic emotional and physical pain for so long that I was becoming numb to it. (A third degree burn is painless because all the nerve endings are burned away.)
One day, the truth finally dawned on me: Only I can choose what is best for me. No one can tell me what is good for me–only I can know that. And the way I tell is by noticing how everything feels and choosing the thought, answer, idea or thing that feels best – for me.
Knowing and honoring my personal preferences causes me to fulfill ALL my life purposes naturally. Everything I set out to do during this lifetime is already programmed within me. The way I read the program is to notice what brings me great joy and follow that lead. In fact, this is the shortest and easiest way to find fulfillment.
Before I learned about the Law of Attraction, I felt like I had lost years of my life by enduring a poor marriage, tolerating unfulfilling jobs, and participating in activities that I didn’t like with people whom I didn’t much care for. But within a few years of applying the Law of Attraction in the way described in this post, I felt caught up with life!
About two years ago, I had a profound realization: “Today, I am exactly where I would be, if I had lived my entire life with these insights.” That is a GREAT feeling!
WHAT ABOUT YOU?
2 Peter 1:3 tells us “His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness.” This means that our Creator equipped us with everything that we need to live our best lives! Your personal preferences are a part of that, and they are as unique to you as your fingerprints. Only you can do certain things in this life and your preferences are there to guide you into actually living life in the most joyfully satisfying way!
What about you? Are you seeing yourself in this light? Have you wondered why you don’t fit in with the crowd? Are you ready to accept yourself and your preferences as being right for YOU? What preference have you been ignoring to accommodate someone else?