One of the most important steps in consciously using the Law of Attraction is learning to change –no manage – our expectations. Why? Because the Universe delivers exactly what we expect to see.
The power of expectation is more than simple optimism, hope or wishing things will work out the way that you want; it is the confidence, assuredness, and belief that they will!
Our expectations are formed on the foundations of our existing beliefs. If we believe ourselves to be lacking financially, we will expect to see a bigger proportion of bills than income – and the Universe will deliver. If we believe we are sick, overweight or we expect to feel pain and fatigue, the Universe will deliver. If we believe ourselves to be unworthy of love or we expect not to be loved? Guess what? The Universe will deliver that too!
I know what you’re thinking. “Unless I am clairvoyant, how am I supposed to predict the future?”
This is a two part answer.
The Universe always responds to your expectations – the way you think, feel, and believe about a particular event or circumstance. By having a particular expectation, you aren’t so much predicting as creating the future.
Think back to the experiences you’ve had in your past and ask yourself if you’ve gotten what you were expecting. Have you ever uttered statements like these?
- I just can’t get ahead!
- I’m so sick of struggling.
- Everything always goes wrong for me.
- If it wasn’t for bad luck, I’d have no luck at all.
- This is too good to be true; something’s going to go wrong.
Words like these are actually self-fulfilling prophesies! You are, in effect, placing your order with the Universe at the moment you begin to resonate with the feelings behind the words (yes, even before you SPEAK the words!) The Universe doesn’t care what words you use, it pays attention to your vibrations – the energetic signals that you’re always sending out. That signal is formed by your beliefs and expectations.
Here’s the caveat – while the universe always responds to our expectations, it doesn’t conform to our specific plans. The Universal mind is higher than the human mind: It isn’t restricted to the limitations of our imaginations.
Isaiah 55: 8-9 says:
8“For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
neither are your ways my ways,”
declares the Lord.
9 “As the heavens are higher than the earth,
so are my ways higher than your ways
and my thoughts than your thoughts.
If you want your expectations to be met, you mustn’t become attached to a particular outcome. This is what is meant by “Let Go and Let God” and “Detach from the Outcome”.
General Requests vs. Specific Requests
For example, suppose you wanted to attract money.
You can be more specific than that and say you wanted to attract $10,000.
Let’s call it “at least $10,000” to leave the door open to attracting even more!
So we affirm “I am now easily attracting at least $10,000 in the most joyful and efficient way possible!”
You can toy with the words (easily and effortlessly, for my greatest good, etc.).
These declarations set the stage for you to accomplish what you want without setting too many overly specific conditions.
Consider, on the other hand, you say “I will win at least 10,000 in next Sunday’s lottery.”
This is certainly possible, but you are placing a lot of unnecessary pressure on yourself in this case.
Think about it: there are countless trillions of dollars floating around the planet, and all you are asking for is $10,000. Why should you limit yourself to winning it at the lottery when there are so many other ways that it could come to you (inheritance, work bonus, gift, etc.)?
So, how do we change our expectations? Is it possible? Absolutely!
One of the most powerful things you can begin doing is consciously expecting the best. Throughout the course of your day, take a few moments to pause and expect something wonderful. Say to yourself, “Today is going to be a great day!” Try to find the positive expectation in every experience. If your boss asks to speak with you privately, rather than expecting him to reprimand or fire you, expect him to praise you and give you a pay raise! Rather than expecting to see bills in your mailbox when you get home, expect to see a check.
The more you can keep this feeling of happy expectation in your heart, the more often you will see results that directly mirror your expectations.
Does it sound unbelievable? Far-fetched? Try this little experiment:
Before leaving your home one morning, say to yourself, “Sometime today I will see the image of a rubber duck (or any image you choose – it should be something you wouldn’t ordinarily see during your daily activities). I choose to attract this image into my awareness, and it will jump out at me so I don’t miss it. I KNOW I will see this rubber duck, and that will prove to me that my expectations DO affect my experiences.” As you speak these words, infuse them with power and conviction! Believe with all of your heart that you will indeed attract this image to yourself. Then let go of it and continue with your day as usual.
If you don’t see the image you’ve chosen, you’ll know that you didn’t put enough power and faith into your expectation!
The first time I tried this experiment, by the time I saw the rubber duck, I’d forgotten about the manifestation exercise! I was flipping through the sales circulars of the Sunday paper. As I turned the page, there it was placed strategically on a shelf on a page full of bathroom items for sale. I didn’t go looking for it, but I certainly manifested it!
My next experiment was for $100. And I manifested this not once, but twice! I rejected the original source because I didn’t want to deal with any contingencies or expectations from the source! I found the second presentation much more agreeable and happily accepted it.
Once you begin to see that you can influence your experiences even in small ways, imagine the sense of empowerment you’ll feel when you decide to expect something better in the bigger aspects of your life. Try it; I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised!