As we’ve started our countdown to 2020, we’ve discussed purposeful goal-setting and graceful receiving. Now, let’s take a look at how to prime the Law Of Attraction to get what you want. Attraction is a very powerful tool to use to get what you want, if you know the proper way to use it.
People interact with each other on a daily basis, and most times this is because one person needs something from the other. Dating, business, friendship, and politics are all interactions that involve this type of exchange. Getting others to do what you want them to do is simple, when you know how to do it.
In the business world, for example, Ted may have a product or service to sell while Jon is looking just such a product. To sell the product or service to Jon, Ted needs to convince Jon that he will be satisfied and that the product or service Ted renders will meet Jon’s needs.
In other words, the way to get anybody to do what you want (buy, sell, vote, visit, etc.) is to make them want to do it. Trying to get what you want through intimidation or force is asking for trouble. It is hurtful, stressful, and ruins trust. Yes, it’s possible but not advisable to use forceful methods.
So how do you get others to do what you want? Simple. Give them what they want. That is the secret to attraction. And what are people’s basic desires? Most people would answer good health, love, and financial security.
However, there is one important, yet intangible, thing that we all want more than anything else, and that is to be appreciated. Being appreciated and complimented makes us all feel important. When we feel important, we feel needed and wanted, and this gives us a reason for existing.
How do you make someone else feel important? Tell them. Show them. Give appreciation freely, honestly, and without reservation. Saying how appreciative you are for a favor received or a job well done will make the other person feel important and respected.
Now, let’s not mistake genuine thankfulness for manipulation. Manipulation is the art of manipulating. Revisiting our Mirriam-Webster’s dictionary, we learn that manipulate means:
1: to treat or operate with or as if with the hands or by mechanical means especially in a skillful manner manipulate a pencil manipulate a machine
2a: to manage or utilize skillfully – quantify our data and manipulate it statistically— S. L. Payne
b: to control or play upon by artful, unfair, or insidious means especially to one’s own advantage – being used and manipulated by the knowing men around him— New Republic
3: to change by artful or unfair means so as to serve one’s purpose – DOCTOR suspected that the police reports were manipulated— Evelyn G. Cruickshanks
Certainly, people have been manipulating other people since the dawn of time. What is it about the process of manipulating others that is so appealing?
- Manipulation is all about enjoying the power to get people to do what you want. Even three-year-olds understand this: they have temper tantrums to get what they want.
- Manipulation avoids the messy uncertainty of not knowing what will happen next. Manipulators love the certainty of knowing where they want the interaction to go.
- Manipulation exists within the simple framework of heroes and villains. Everyone wants to be a hero. The manipulator often sets up the situation where the “hero” plays right into their plan under the presumption of “rescuing” them. In their anxiousness to become the hero, they miss that they are actually enabling the manipulator.
Guilt is a way to manipulate. Lying by omission is a way to manipulate. Manipulation is about getting someone to submit without the messiness of conflict. This is precisely what you don’t want to do when you are trying to persuade someone to give you what you want.
Instead Of Manipulation
Rather, to attract what you want, you must show the other person that if he does what you want him to do it will, in turn, make him feel important. While it may be difficult to articulate how being appreciated will make someone feel, most people are well aware that authentic appreciation and gratitude is real and priceless and indeed does make them feel valued and important.
You make people feel important by making them a priority – spending quality time with them, actively listening to them, sincerely complementing them, and taking a real interest in what’s important to them at the moment. Something as simple as a smile can also be sufficient.
How does the Law Of Attraction Impact Attraction?
The Law Of Attraction says “Ask. Believe. Receive.” According to the Law Of Attraction, people and things are attracted to you based on your vibrational frequency. Despite your best efforts, you will never attract a calm, reserved, homebody if you are a loud, boisterous, club kid. Regardless of who that person is. Truth is, your vibration is on the relationship, not the person. You are attracting the feelings of the relationship not a specific person. The Universe will deliver the relationship – even if it’s not with the person that you initially wanted. The Universe knows best and you will find that you are happiest with the person and relationship that you actually attracted.
The same goes for job opportunities, real estate opportunities, entrepreneurial endeavors, donor requests and anything else that you can think of. Your mind is limited by your experiences. The Universe knows all, which is why it responds to your vibrations. You cannot even begin to comprehend the vast number of possibilities that may lead to your desired outcome. You may not even be aware of the people and situations that will come together for your greatest good!
Which is why it is important to “Act as if” and radiate the vibration of gratitude and appreciation towards everyone you meet. Make people feel special, important and appreciated and the Universe will respond. Not only will people to do what you want them to, they will feel good about doing it for you!